A miscarriage is something no couple ever wishes to deal with, but it does happen. It is also more common than most people think, except it is not talked about much. In most cases, when you have experienced a miscarriage, a lot of couples believe trying to become pregnant again will help them move on. There are a couple of things to think about before getting pregnant after a miscarriage.
An important factor to think about is whether you and your partner are both emotionally ready to try to become pregnant again. During pregnancy, a woman’s hormones change a lot; when you lose a baby it takes time for your body and your hormones to adjust. Many of us know that hormones affect our emotions. It is important you and your partner take some time to discuss your loss and let it sink in.
A second factor to think about before getting pregnant after a miscarriage is whether your body is physically ready. You will hear all sorts of recommended time frames from health care providers on when you should begin trying to get pregnant again. The common recommendation is a few months. It is important that you give your body time to heal and strengthen including your uterus. Your body and uterus just began preparing for a baby and that preparation was abruptly changed. It takes time for your uterus to recover and your body to become regular again. If you do not give yourself time to physically heal, your chances for a miscarriage may increase.
After you and your partner have experienced a miscarriage it is common to be scared and concerned about whether you may experience another miscarriage. Luckily, a high percentage of women do become pregnant after a miscarriage. Some women who may have experienced two or three miscarriages have a high percentage of becoming pregnant.
When you and your partner decide to move forward with becoming pregnant again, it is no different than the first time around. Here are some ideas to help:
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1. Begin taking a prenatal vitamin
Start taking a prenatal vitamin now. You should already be trying to eat a healthy diet, but sometimes we mess up. Taking a prenatal vitamin helps supplement those vitamins and nutrients you may be missing.
Also, the major development stages of vital organs in the baby happen in the first 10 weeks. Some women do not even realize they are pregnant until about that time. Starting early is a great precaution so you cover all your bases. Prenatal vitamins can also help with major birth defects and preterm delivery, so starting early is a great idea.
When looking for a prenatal vitamin, make sure you look for one that contains 400 to 800 mg of folic acid. You should also make sure your vitamin contains the following:
- Vitamin E
- Vitamin A
- Vitamin D
- Vitamin C
2. Track your cycle
Tracking your cycle should be something that every woman does whether they are trying to get pregnant or not. Let us get down to the basics. When you ovulate, an egg is released from your ovary and the egg is only viable for 12 to 24 hours. Sperm can last 48 to 72 hours after sex. Using those times frames, there is a very small window for you to get pregnant. Isn’t that crazy? This is such a short period of time and it seems like some women become pregnant so quickly and easily.
After you know when you are ovulating, you will want to plan to have sex on your most fertile days. Your most fertile days are usually three days before you ovulate until the actual day you ovulate. When you have these days calculated, begin planning on when you will have sex. Remember, sperm can last up to 48 hours to 72 hours after sex, so make sure you use those time frames when calculating.
To help determine this time frame, tracking when you ovulate is important. There are some fertility apps available such as Kinadra or Glow. These apps can be downloaded onto your phone, so you have easy access to record what is going on with your body.
This goes hand in hand with tracking your cycle. Some women do not track their cycles closely, but notice a change in their cervical mucous and know it may be getting close. When you notice that your mucous is clear, stretchy and is similar to egg whites, this is when you are most fertile.
4. Have sex before ovulation
As mentioned above, having sex before you ovulate would be beneficial. It can be a common misconception that you should have sex after ovulation. Have sex before ovulation and this will allow the sperm to get to where it needs to be.
5. No Lubrication
When trying to get pregnant, you want to avoid lubrication. Lubrication slows down sperm and does not allow it to get where it needs to be! If you absolutely need lubrication, for comfort, there are options available that are sperm friendly. These lubrications are created to help with the sperm’s viability and motility, which give the sperm a little boost.
Also, remember when cervical mucous was mentioned? If you are at your most fertile time in your cycle, your mucous should be clear and egg white consistency which acts like a great natural lubrication during sex.
Checking your basal body temperature may sound a little old school, but if you want to get pregnant quickly it is best to do it to cover all your bases. A lot of the fertility apps have an area to record your basal body temperature also. What is your basal body temperature? This is the temperature of your body when you are at full rest. When you ovulate, your body temperature increases. Checking and recording your basal body temperature daily can help you predict when you are most fertile.
The best time of day to check your basal body temperature is first thing in the morning, before you get out of bed. Make sure you use an accurate thermometer or a specific basal thermometer.
7. Ovulation Predictor Kit
If you really are not into tracking your cycle or checking your basal body temperature, using an ovulation predictor kit may be a great option for you. It also may be something you want to do on top of the other two, to cover your bases. An ovulation predictor kit checks your luteinizing hormone (LH) and is about 99% accurate. The luteinizing hormone is always present in your urine. At about 24 to 48 hours this hormone increases and triggers your egg to be released, or in other words, ovulation occurs. If you can determine this luteinizing hormone increase, you will know the best time to have sex to become pregnant.
Getting pregnant after a miscarriage is no different than becoming pregnant before a miscarriage as you can see above. Making sure you and your partner are emotionally ready before trying to get pregnant is the most important thing. If you have experienced multiple miscarriages, you and your care provider will do some research and testing to figure out the best way to move forward so you and your partner can have a successful pregnancy.