Baby showers celebrate the joy and excitement of welcoming a new child to the world. But some partygoers are apprehensive about attending showers. What type of gift should you give? Should you bring food? Is a card necessary?
We’ll cover proper baby shower etiquette, so you know exactly what to expect. Not sure what to write in a baby shower card? We’ve got that covered, too, with 10 of the best messages to send the mom-to-be.
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Baby Shower Etiquette 101
Your best friend is expecting. It’s her first baby, so it’s a big deal. Should you be planning and hosting the shower, or is that someone else’s responsibility?
Traditionally, showers are thrown by friends or distant relatives, so in this case, yes, you would be a good candidate to plan and host the party if your best friend was expecting. Typically, showers are not thrown by close family members or the parents-to-be.
What’s the reasoning for this tradition? To avoid giving off the impression that the family was on a gift-collecting mission. Now, tradition has it that family shouldn’t throw the party, but things are changing. It’s not uncommon for a sister, mother-in-law or even the mom-to-be’s mother to host showers.
Who Should Be on the Guest List?
The guest list should include close friends and family members. Before considering anyone else to invite, think about whether or not it would be appropriate for the guest to buy a gift for the expecting mom.
Traditionally, men were not invited to baby showers, but this tradition is also changing. Although it changes the vibe of the party, we’re seeing more spouses, brothers and male cousins being invited to baby showers.
How Much Should Be Spent on a Gift?
How much you spend on the baby shower gift will largely depend on your relationship with the mom-to-be. Typically, the expecting mom’s family buys the more expensive gifts, like the stroller, crib and other big-ticket items. Friends and more distant relatives give the creative and personal gifts.
If you’re not a member of the expecting mom’s family, the general rule of thumb is to spend between $30 and $50 on a shower gift.
Baby showers are held before the baby is born. While you can host the party any time after the pregnancy is confirmed, the end of pregnancy is the preferred time.
Some say that six months is a good time to host a shower, seeing as the mom-to-be isn’t quite at the “get it out of me” stage just yet. Others prefer to wait until just a month before the baby is due – a risky choice, but a welcomed diversion from the trials and tribulations of those final weeks of the pregnancy.
I’m Throwing The Shower – How Do Invites Work? What Should We Do at the Party?
If you’re hosting the shower, you can choose to send traditional invitations or email invites – whichever you prefer. You may also consider a mix of the two, especially if you will be inviting older guests who may not use email.
Be sure to include the location, time and date – and who the mom-to-be is, of course. RSVP instructions should be included, and you can include the theme of the party if you wish.
If the expecting parents are registered for baby gear, it’s often best to leave that information off of the invitation. Instead, offer registry info after guests RSVP.
Make sure that you send out invitations a few weeks before the party to give guests time to prepare and purchase a gift. As far as what you should do at the party –that’s completely up to you and the expecting mom. It also depends on the crowd.
Choosing a theme is a great place to start, although not entirely necessary. Plan to serve food and refreshments. Don’t forget to have a few fun and silly games planned, too. Favors should be given to guests as a token of thanks.
What to Write on a Baby Shower Card
Top 14 Baby Shower Messages
Whether you’re throwing the shower or attending as a guest, you’ll be expected to give a card to the guest of honor. While you can hand over a card that says “To Betsy, Congrats! Love, Amy”, sending a well-written, thoughtful message is the better option.
Not sure what to say? Here are some ideas:
- I wish you nothing but joy and laughter with the birth of your new baby.
- May you and your baby be blessed with good health and fortune in the coming months.
- May the final days of your pregnancy be filled with hope, excitement and wonder.
- Wishing you a safe and quick delivery.
- Wishing you and your new baby the best of luck on the long road of life ahead.
- Congratulations and best wishes to you as you venture into this new and exciting chapter of your life. Get ready for sleepless nights, busy days, never-ending questions and a bounty of love.
- Congratulations on your new baby! If I had one piece of advice to offer, it would be this: don’t close your eyes – not even for a second. The moments and years fly by like the wind. Hold your little one tight, share plenty of fun ghost stories, and don’t forget to be unwaveringly generous with your love.
- Wishing you and [father’s name] all the best as you wait for the new baby’s arrival. The two of you will make amazing parents. Can’t wait to meet the little one!
- We wish you all the best in the months to come. You may not get any sleep. You may be running like the Energizer bunny. But your perseverance and love will give way to the joy, giggles and renewed sense of wonderment that comes along with being a parent. Best wishes to the three of you!
- Nothing in life is more precious than having a baby. We couldn’t be happier for you and your little blessing. Welcoming your new baby with lots of love and excitement. Such joy a baby brings into our lives!
- In just a few weeks, there will be someone new in your home – what a remarkable event. Your new baby is a blessing, truly heaven-sent.
- Congratulations on your new arrival! Before you know it, your home will be filled with the pitter-patter of little feet and so much love, your heart will burst at the seams. Enjoy every moment and count every blessing, for you have many coming your way.
- Someday soon, you’ll be holding someone snuggable, huggable and totally loveable. No one deserves it more than you. Best wishes to you and yours.
- We can’t wait to welcome your little one to the world. A great joy is coming! We wish you nothing but the best, and hope you have a safe, joyous delivery.
A baby shower is a time to celebrate new life. Use the tips above to avoid making any faux pas, and be sure to include one of the above messages in your card to wish the new parents luck and happiness. If you’re hosting the shower, don’t forget to consult with the expecting mom (unless it’s a surprise shower) on the little details to make her day truly special.